Sail on Silver Girl

January 15, 2012 § Leave a comment

I’m not a very romantic gal, but today’s my anniversary — a very significant one — and I’ve suddenly found myself feeling very sentimental. I was thinking back on our wedding day and remembered Bridge Over Troubled Water being played during the Mass.

It certainly isn’t a classic wedding song, but I think the idea of always “being there” for your significant other is one of the more important aspects of a sharing your life with someone.

I can’t tell you what the secret is to a long marriage. As one comedian said, not getting a divorce is the answer. As in any joke, there is a great truth to it. I can say that sticking it out through the inevitable tough times is worth it.

There is one part of the song played at our wedding that is especially significant to me. It is this:

Sail on silver girl

Sail on by

Your time has come to shine

All your dreams are on their way

See how they shine

Oh, if you need a friend

I’m sailing right behind

I was not the type of girl that dreamed of getting married but, I have to say, after many years of marriage and raising children I realize it is/was my time to shine. The two most important jobs in life are sustaining a marriage and raising a family. Both can be a serious business at times, but they can also be so very joyful. I know that having a family forced me to be a better, less selfish, person.

I did, and still do, have other dreams besides a family. My husband has always been my biggest supporter and advocate during my various endeavors. Although he still seems mildly surprised whenever I manage to do something creative, whether it is a pencil drawing or writing a book, he’s always my biggest admirer.

I hope I’ve been as supportive to him throughout the years. I think I have, but you’d have to ask him for an honest answer.

I didn’t realize all my dreams were on their way on the day of my marriage. But I’m glad they arrived just the same.

Bad Teacher: Bad, bad movie.

January 14, 2012 § Leave a comment

I’m not a prude. Really, I’m not. But the movie, Bad Teacher, has hit a nerve. I could say this movie epitomizes what is wrong with our society, and I don’t think there would be very many people who would disagree.

I watched Bad Teacher last night, not because I really wanted to, but because it was the movie selected in a compromise with my husband for our weekly movie night. I usually forgo this type of movie, and now my resolve has been strengthened.

The premise is that a gold-digging woman (Cameron Diaz) becomes a teacher because of the holidays, short hours, and there is “no accountability,” which leaves more time for her true ambition. At the beginning, she’s not letting the school door hit her in the ass when she leaves to marry a rich husband, but he figures out her real motives before the nuptials and, the next school year, she’s back on the job.

Elizabeth Hasley (Diaz) proceeds to drink, smoke pot, embezzle, and steal the state standardized test answers — by drugging the state official responsible for the test — so her kids will score the highest and she can win five grand for her BOOB JOB. In the end, an uptight, but honest, co-worker gets blamed for all of Elizabeth’s antics and she LETS HER take the blame. She also tells everyone the reason for the breakup with her fiancee was 1) she caught him sleeping with his sister, 2) she caught him sleeping with his DOG. Now that’s classy, right? And not the least bit unethical or even, possibly, grounds for a lawsuit.

The redemption is supposed to be that Elizabeth finally realizes the new rich-dude (and the honest teacher’s boyfriend) she’s after is shallow (now that’s the pot calling the kettle black) and that she doesn’t REALLY need the boob job after all. Elizabeth realizes she loves the nice gym teacher, who she shunned at first for his lack of money. (Why this nice-guy gym teacher would even be interested in a scumbag like the Diaz character is unfathomable.) The movie ends when the Diaz character gets REWARDED for all her despicable and immoral deeds by landing the job of SCHOOL COUNSELOR. Throughout the movie, there are scenes where Diaz gives advice to kids, and we are suppose to believe this is where her real talents lie. I shutter at the thought of a low-life like the character of Elizabeth Hasley ever counseling my child, or any other.

The only true “redemption” would have been a speedy trial and jail time for, the Bad Teacher. I vote this movie as one of the worst since the beginning of film. I think it will hold the record in my book for a long, long time.

Here are some “memorable” quotes from the movie. Read them and weep. Because you should.

A Game With Passers-by

January 4, 2012 § 4 Comments

They turn their heads

When I drive by

In my little red car

I toss them a smile

And they high-five

And shoulder bump

As if they’ve just won

Some great victory

*

You don’t understand,

My husband says,

You never have

Yes…I do

I want to say

But what good is it?

Except for a lark

A game with passers-by

*

So I stow it

In the back of my mind

Because I know

Whatever it is

It won’t last forever

And I’m afraid

When the time comes

I won’t want to let it go

Where Am I?

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